Another mark in the he might be a good guy column (this will probably sound silly to those who have never experienced super insecure men): the Xmas tree is shedding copious amounts of needles, if I try to vacumn behind the tree I just knock more down. I had asked a guy I work with if I could borrow his dirt devil. I told NG that I was borrowing it to clean around the tree and I didn't hear "Oh really, who is Jason" or "Why is he letting you borrow that?" or "Why didn't you ask someone else?" or any of the other myriad of questions I might have gotten from FKGG or XH. This tiny little thing made me feel so good. Weird I know! LOL

I can't even begin to tell you the difference in the girls and my life due to NG. Although in truth I was having quite a lot of resistance in my mind to some of things he suggested, I tried it and it has paid off in spades. What is this new concept? Consistency - something that I have avoided all my life either on purpose or not. I have a real problem with being consistent about anything. I've always been about last minute, procrastination, go with the flow, no planning kinda girl. For a single gal, it works. For children, I think it is a recipe for distaster. They need stability, consistency and routine, and structure. Things I have avoided all my life like the plague. The girls have taken to this like a duck to water, me I'm really struggling but I'm trying and that is the best I can do. Not to say that it went smoothly, the girls had a big adjustment period and there were some blowouts but the end result has been happier kids which is always a good thing.