Well, my good news yesterday quickly turned bad. V called again and he is on weekend furloghs and would like to resume his visitation on his weekends. In preparation for this news, I had talked to the girls about seeing their dad again. Oldest is a def no and youngest is iffy. I asked them to right down their reasons for and against and got some startling info. Evidenly they have seen him buying drugs and sniffing white powder. He has hit them and pulled their hair. He fights with everyone in the home and is being his usually bullying self and they do nothing about it. This is in addition to the stuff they told me about how he tells them I don't care about them and don't love them. This morning I called the court back and she told me that if he is out on furlough I do have to allow visitation. I am trying to come up with ideas on how to delay until we can get back to court but am having trouble because I have never done this before so I thought some step moms who have experienced the bio moms who seem to be experts in interfereing with visitation for some advice...PLEASE HELP!!!!!